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Welcome to the first part of three of Modern Homemakers Week! I'm so excited about this theme because it's a topic that isn't talked about often.
2017 is far from the expectations of the 1950's what we as homemakers needed to know in the 1950's is not what we need to know today. In this post, I'm going to be sharing the 5 simple skills that you need to be a modern homemaker.
Most of the time moms and wives (regardless if they stay at home or not) do not refer to themselves as homemakers. I know I never do.
The other day I was thinking about my life and the things that I need to do to "stay afloat" on a daily basis. It got me wondering about the 1950's and what "homemakers" did on a daily basis. Did they feel the pressure that we feel now?
Was there to do list never ending?
With modern age luxuries like washers, dryers, dishwasher, crockpots, delivery people, and the iRobot we can save time more ways than the 1950's moms did.
I started wondering more about the skills that these women needed to get through their day and how much times have changed.
When I was in school I took home ec. I learned how to sew, cook, and care for a sack of flour (aka a baby...). Do we still need these same skills as homemakers in the 21st century?
How many moms mend holes in jeans or buttons on shirts?
Do we throw more things away then we do fix anymore?
Just a generation ago (my mother's generation) needed to know how to cook from scratch, mend clothing, care for the kids, and clean the home without those handy little kitchen and home appliances that we use now.
My mother didn't put me and my siblings on the couch with an iPad so she could clean the house or cook dinner (I'm sure she would have if she had the option!)
So with technology changing, more women working, and the busier lives that we live, do we need different skills to be a modern homemaker?
The answer is YES!
The skills that we need are not hard, they're quite simple and with a little bit of practice, implementation, and discipline you too will have these skills down in no time.
So what skills does the modern homemaker need to poses to survive today's demands?
I'm glad you asked because that's exactly what I want to share with you right now!
Social... to a point
It can be so hard to find a solid social support system. With social media and smartphones being a part of our daily lives we tend to forget to make friends with our kid's parents.
Now I'm not saying starting a mom group but having some moms (or dads) in your social circle that you can count on when you might be running late from a meeting, appointment, or if you're just home with the flu.
If you are anything like me, the thought of making a new friend makes me want to breathe into a paper bag so I don't hyperventilate. So what can you do to make this happen?
When you are standing outside your child's classroom before the bell goes off and you see fellow moms standing there staring at their phone say something about the teacher.
The great news is, you already have a common theme-your kids are in the same class. That means that your kids are spending, what 6 1/2 hours together 5 days a week.
That's a long time.
Also, that parent probably won't bite you or tell you to jump off a bridge (and if they do, you don't want them in your corner anyway).
What will probably happen is she'll answer back and a friendship will start to form. Day after day, you'll see that same mom or the same moms and it will get easier to talk to them.
So give it a try!
The next skill that I think you need as a modern homemaker is:
Being somewhat techy
Now I say somewhat because I don't think you need to know code or how to put an entire computer network together to survive in today's daily life. But I think that it's important to know how to set passwords, unlock computers, and check histories to keep your children safe on the internet.
No one wants to see surprise charges on their internet or cell phone bill because the kids bought the upgrades or extra lives to their games.
So knowing how to set up passwords or passcodes that need to be entered before someone purchases something is important.
You also want to make sure your kids are safe on the internet to keeping an eye on what they are doing is important.
Maybe this is something that hasn't changed since the 50's but still a skill that I think is super important.
Until someone invents the money tree that can grow in the backyard this is important for 98% of us. Tracking your spending and knowing where your money is going is so, so important.
If this overwhelms you, you are not alone. Budgeting overwhelms most of us. Unless you are an accountant or in love with spending spreadsheets, the thought of putting together a budget might make you want to run for the hills or close up shop and forget about it.
The problem is, if you ignore your finances then it's going to bite you in the butt sooner or later.
What can you do now?
If you don't have a budget and don't know where to start just grab a piece of paper and write the word "date" at the top and then next to it, write "spent". You can now start tracking what you spend on this piece of paper.
When you buy something, write it down.
After a few weeks, you'll have a good idea of what you spend your money on.
You can have your spouse do the same thing so you are tracking both spending habits.
Keep an organized schedule
This is probably by far one of the most important skills you can have however can be one of the hardest skills to implement. Not because it's hard but because it can be overwhelming.
When you don't have a schedule and you try to create one it can be one of the most overwhelming things ever. Putting everyone's schedule into one place. Know what you already have scheduled, what you do on what day.
I need a nap just thinking about it.
So instead of taking on an overwhelming project like creating a schedule for you and your family, I suggest taking baby steps.
First, think about if you would like to have an electronic schedule or a paper and pen/pencil schedule.
Both systems work great and both systems have their plusses and minuses.
Like for instance, if you have an electronic schedule that is connected to your smartphone you know you'll always have it with you when you have your phone.
Typically you can use these schedules over multiple devices so you and others can add to the schedule making it super handy.
Now, on the other hand, it can be easy to make mistakes to days and times without realizing it until it's too late. With a paper schedule, you know at a quick glance that you've added the correct time and day.
There are tons more of pros and cons that I'm not going to get into because I think you understand where I'm coming from.
Being okay with not doing it all
My final tip for you is probably the most important (okay maybe I say that about all of them) but seriously I think it is.
In society, we as mothers are expected to know that we can do it all. We clean the house, do the laundry (yes, I know that it's still cleaning the house but come on, it is its own project...), cook the meals, raise the kids, and give, give, give until we just can't give anymore.
These are the things that are expected of us and how often can we complete our to-do lists?
Probably once every blue moon, right?!
So how can we be okay without being able to do it all?
We are the ones that see the things that need to be done.
I love my husband more than words can say but he does not see that the sink in the kitchen needs to be cleaned or that the top of the TV needs to be dusted.
I think that women are wired to see things that men just don't see (except I do know a few men that can see them but that's a totally different story and a different post).
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I want to thank you so much for taking time to read this post, it really does mean a lot. I would love to know in the comments below what skills do you think that all modern homemakers need? Again thank you so much for stopping by and below are a few other posts that I think you may enjoy!